Hi, I’m Vicky — a perinatal educator and founder of The Fairy Birthmother. I support families through every stage of their journey, from bump, birth, baby & beyond. I’m an antenatal and postnatal educator, maternity nurse, doula, breastfeeding consultant, and perinatal mental health educator. I offer a range of pregnancy, birth, and baby classes — including hypnobirthing, antenatal preparation, and baby care — through group workshops, 1:1 sessions, and online courses. I work with families in Woking, Guildford, and the surrounding areas, as well as supporting parents across the UK online.

At the heart of everything I do is a belief in continuity of care — having one trusted person walking alongside you, holding space, answering questions, and offering gentle, evidence-based support through all the twists and turns of early parenthood. I know how overwhelming it can feel navigating advice from every direction, so I aim to be a calm, grounded voice you can rely on.

I’m especially passionate about breastfeeding support. I know how much a positive start to feeding can impact a family’s confidence and emotional wellbeing, and I’m all about helping parents feel informed, supported, and empowered — whatever feeding journey they choose.

Breastfeeding can bring so many benefits — from supporting baby’s immune system and development, to lowering the risk of certain illnesses for mum, and even boosting oxytocin to help with bonding and postnatal recovery. But more than anything, I believe every parent deserves support that feels kind, non-judgemental, and rooted in real care.

Because with the right support, you really can find your way — from bump, birth, baby & beyond.

1. “How do I know if my baby is getting enough milk?”

Such a common worry, and totally understandable! It’s hard when you can’t see how much they’re drinking, but there are signs. If your baby is having at least 6 wet nappies and 2 or more poos a day (after day 5), feeding frequently (8–12 times in 24 hours), seems content for some of the time after feeds, and is gaining weight well — you’re doing great. If you’re not in pain while feeding and your baby’s nappies and weight are on track, that’s the reassurance you need.

2. “Why does it feel like my baby wants to feed all the time?”

Yes, this can feel relentless at times, but it’s usually totally normal. Newborns especially feed a lot — and not just for hunger! Feeding is soothing and helps reduce pain and anxiety. Babies are born with a strong instinct to suck, and breastfeeding offers both food and comfort. We’re “carry mammals” — designed to hold our babies close, upright, and near their food source. Cluster feeding (those times when they’re on and off the breast constantly) is how babies boost your supply and regulate themselves. Link back to Q1 — if baby’s weight gain and nappies are good, and you’re not in pain, then frequent feeding is normal and nothing to worry about.

3. “Should breastfeeding hurt?”

Not really, no. A little tenderness at first is common, but ongoing pain isn’t normal — and you definitely don’t have to put up with it. If it hurts, it’s a sign that something might need adjusting, especially positioning and attachment (we often say “latch” but it’s really how baby is positioned and attaches to the breast that makes the difference). Getting some support can make all the difference — small tweaks can lead to big improvements!

4. “What if I don’t leak or feel a let-down?”

Totally fine! Some people leak buckets, others never use a breast pad — and neither means anything about how much milk you’re making. Some feel that “zingy” let-down, others don’t feel a thing. Same goes for pregnancy — not leaking during pregnancy is absolutely normal and doesn’t mean you won’t be able to breastfeed or make milk. Every body is different!

5. “Is it normal for one boob to produce more milk than the other?”

Oh yes — so common! Many people have what we lovingly call a “power boob.” It’s totally normal for one side to produce more or feel fuller than the other. It usually doesn’t cause any problems, but always offer both breasts each feed if you can — baby might just have a favourite! Over time, your body figures out the balance.

6. “How long should each feed be?”

There’s no “should” here — every baby is different. Some are speedy snackers, others are slow and dreamy. Feeds can last anywhere from 5 to 45 minutes. If your baby is actively sucking and swallowing, seems satisfied afterwards, and your nipples are comfy, you’re winning. If they’re falling asleep too soon or taking aaaaages, you can try gentle breast compressions — that can help trigger another let-down and keep things moving.

7. “Can I have a drink while I’m breastfeeding?”

Yes, you can! As long as you can safely hold your baby, you can safely breastfeed. The amount of alcohol that passes into your milk is tiny — around 0.03% of what you drink ends up in your milk. So, no need to pump and dump unless you’re feeling unwell or have had a lot to drink. A glass of wine or a G&T with dinner is totally fine. Enjoy it!

Breastfeeding can feel like a bit of a mystery at first — and that’s completely normal. Every baby is different, every journey is unique, and there’s no such thing as a silly question. These are just a few of the common ones I get asked all the time — and hopefully they help you feel a little more confident and a lot less alone.

My biggest tip? Be prepared. Find a preparing to breastfeed course.

Knowing what to expect, understanding how breastfeeding works, and having realistic, supportive info makes all the difference.

Because the truth is — you don’t have to figure it all out in the middle of the night with one hand on Google. You’ve got this. And support is always out there when you need it.

Vicky - the fairy birthmother

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Breastfeeding myths and FAQs with The Fairy Birthmother